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freakofliterature replied to your post “there’s a lot of talk amongst feminists about whether letting your…”
I suppose it’s just because of the tradition of a man giving his daughter away… which is disturbing… but it’s more a thing of sentiment now I think even if it is controversial that we have accepted it as a completely acceptable norm
I’m not well versed in the traditions of marriage (I don’t want to be married) so it’s a learning curve for me. in the traditional sense, I can see the disturbing nature of a father giving away his potentially unwilling daughter to man she doesn’t want to marry. that I can see. I think what’s really important here is the nature behind the bride’s wishes to be given away. I don’t belong to any other person, regardless of their status in my life, unless I choose so. if I walk the isle solo, it’s because I’m choosing to give myself. the whole concept of ‘giving away’ to me implies possession and I don’t like that. I’m still very much confused by marriage on the whole.
there’s a lot of talk amongst feminists about whether letting your father walk you down the isle on your wedding day is sexist or not. I’m not 100% sure how I feel about it purely because I’m conflicted.
I’ve never had a real father. ever.
the last time I saw my father it was my 10th birthday. I learnt from a young age to identify triggers to my anxiety and his physical abuse was a clear trigger. I’ve had other adult men step into my father’s shoes but I rejected each one. I didn’t want a father. I was t e n years old and said no to male role figures. I had my mother and that’s all I ever wanted. suppose that’s why I’ve always been fiercely independent - it’s what I wanted for myself.
if and when I get married, there will be no father to walk me down the isle, and I’m very much pleased about that. I don’t know if I’d want my father to walk me down the isle even if I had one. I mean, it’s totally my choice. I could have other men in my life walk me down but that would make me uncomfortable. at the end of the day I see it like this; if that’s what you want, then go for it. if you’re like me, then go for that. do what makes you happy.
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